Do What You Want

Valerie Rice | June 21, 2021

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Let’s get back to Pride Month. I know I have mentioned this before, but I am going to say it again: gender is a social construct, so do what you want. The only person who knows who and what you are is you. So let me introduce myself” Hello, my name is Button, I am Nonbinary, and that means that no matter who I date it’s really not very straight. If this is a problem then the best solution is reflection of personal motivations. Why? Because what I am and what I do in my skin has absolutely no impact on anyone else. Same with anyone else who is in the alphabet mafia.


There are so many books and papers and journal articles that address sex and gender, I can’t even start to list them here. I mean, I am going to give you a link or two, but this topic is extensive. Long before the stranglehold of religion, societies acknowledged that gender was not binary. Sex isn’t either, by the way, and we have all the science to prove that. The whole reason we force gender as a binary is so that we can classify and oppress people. Resistance to dropping a rigid binary system is the equivalent of patriarchy’s desperate attempt to maintain control. Sorry buddy, but science doesn’t care, and trans, nonbinary, and fluid people have existed since the dawn of time. Only recent history has seen the enforcement of gender roles and classification.


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A while back there was this jerk who hated the idea of consent..who was that…oh yeah, Rush Limbaugh. He’s dead now, and I am so happy. Before you get upset about that, realize that he said, and I quote, “If there is consent on both or all three or all four, however many are involved in the sex act, it’s perfectly fine. Whatever it is. But if the left ever senses and smells that there’s no consent in part of the equation, then here come the rape police. But consent is the magic key to the left.” and yeah. Consent is the key. He mocks people who want bodily autonomy. And you DESERVE to be punished for violating that. So please, love your partner(s) however you want, as long as you have consent, because fuck that guy and people who think like him. May they all rot in their graves and we can rebuild society on their bones, mmkay?


I know that there are many areas where it is not safe to be open and out. I know that it is easier to “pass” and that is okay. I personally love a good fight, I enjoy the shock and awe of my nonconforming self offending people by existing. It feels good to be me, it is freeing to stare down a hater and win. But I have that privilege. Not everyone does. SO if you are able to keep up with the protest and the riot, even if it is being openly and flamboyantly extra in public spaces, please do so. If you cannot, nobody is going to judge you. Do what is necessary to remain alive until we can fight through to where you are. 


I am going to insert a few hyperlink for more information now, and I would really appreciate it if you would click on them for more information. This idea of binary is so disgustingly wrong we need to tear it down, just like the misogyny, racism, patriarchy, and capitalist hell-scape in which we live needs to be addressed….oh dear. Click here for trans equality.Click here for sex science.Click here to help. Incidentally, no valid religion is going to condemn someone for their gender or sexuality. If they DO, you are probably in a cult. I have a series on that, too. Okay. Welp. I also have a few previous posts on this topic you can read, so until next time, Be Well!

Published by vrice2010

A mother, an author, a nerd. After many years working in the fields of mental health and developmental disabilities, graduating from the University of Phoenix, and pouring my talents into my local community, I decided to spread my wings and reach a wider audience.

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